Day Fifty Two

Sometimes, the hardest part of being in a long distance relationship is watching other people be happy. As much we're told, "Happiness is contagious," that's not always true. Think I'm just being hateful and pessimistic? Raise your hand if you've ever seen a rich reality star like Kim Kardashian who's totally satisfied with her life or an overly in love couple and thought, "God, look at them and their happiness," and felt at least a little bit of anger or jealousy or sadness.

Yeah, that's what I thought. We all have. It usually doesn't even have to do with the person who's happy, unless they're your mortal enemy, in which case your pre-existing hatred of them only makes their happiness more offensive. It has to do with what's lacking in your life. For people who are struggling with figuring out their career, seeing someone who knows exactly what they want to do in life and is working towards it might trigger some jealousy. For people who are working a low-end job and struggling to get by, seeing celebrities like Snooki and Paris Hilton who had to do almost nothing for their money might piss them off.

For me, it's watching couples together. It's not that I want every couple to be miserable because I can't see my boyfriend. I'm just jealous that they get to be all happy and cute and cuddly. Is it right? Probably not. Is it petty? Absolutely. But it's hard to be in a relationship where you barely get to talk, let alone see each other, while surrounded by happy hand-holding couples. It's hard not to immediately think:

The thing that makes me angrier though is when people take for granted the fact that they get to see each other whenever they want. I'm not saying couples should treat every day like it's the last time they'll see each other for a year, but there are too many couples that spend their time arguing and being mad at each other. You get to be together and THAT'S how you choose to spend you time? I would kill for that day you spent giving your boyfriend the silent treatment over something stupid. 

Then there are these people:

"Ricktoria forgave Clinton for trying to get her mom pregnant, but now has her own secret."

Excuse me, what? There is so much wrong here, besides the fact that her name is Ricktoria. I'm not saying maintaining a good relationship is easy, because it takes hard work and commitment, but it's not that hard to be faithful to the point where you're not trying to have sex with her mom. She forgave Clinton, yes, but now she has her own "secret." 

When you're living together, or at least close by, and you have time for each other, you have all the tools to makes a relationship functional, unless you're lacking common sense and dignity. I see people like Ricktoria and Clinton who get all the time in the world and still mess up their relationships and think, "You don't deserve that time together," when there are perfectly happy and functional couples who barely get time for each other and would love all that time.

It'd be great if all the couples that respected each other and were faithful and loyal were allotted more time together and couples who were going to piss their time together away anyway were barely given any. Maybe it'd make those couples appreciate each other more.